Covid-19 has tested every area of our lives massively. Whether you are married, dating, or just single, Coronavirus has impacted your love life in one way or another. The rules of ‘social distancing’ and ‘stay at home’ orders issued by many countries have changed our interactions completely.
While some couples have been forced to stay in quarantine with each other, others are now on long-distance dating. The single folks are also having it rough because they cannot go out and meet their potential partners. Some have even decided to try out online dating. The way we know love and dating is different now. For many couples worldwide, this will turn out to be the biggest stress test. The big question remains; will romantic relationships survive this pandemic?
Is the Togetherness Becoming Too Much?
Currently, most people have to spend too much time together. While others are just adhering to the lockdown directives, others have even been laid off. Naturally, too much contact can be associated with stress, fear, and worry. Other couples may find this time being spent together too much and suffocating; however much they love and adore each other. The same goes for those staying together but not married; the newlyweds, and those that have been married for decades.
To make it worse, some couples have very small houses making it hard for them to get some alone time. Even when you just want to stay away from your partner and get some air, there is nowhere to run. This can be stressful. No offense but even if you love someone so much, having them in your face, 24/7 can be suffocating. You may just need a minute to yourself to breathe.
I can’t say most couples are going through this, though. Others are actually enjoying these moments together. They are in fact using this moment to bond and enjoy each other’s company.
Here’s the thing. Before this pandemic, people had a job and outdoor hobbies, so the contact time with our partners was limited. During those days, others missed their partners and wished they could spend more time together. Now, your prayers have been answered, but we are still complaining. Human beings are too hard to please.
What am I even saying? We wanted to spend time with our partners, but this is on another level. They say absence makes the heart grow fonder. The opposite is also true. Suddenly, you may start looking at them and wonder how you even ended up with them in the first place. Well, I won’t judge you for this. You start noticing things when you stay with someone for too long. If your partner does not have a good sense of humor, you are finished.
Long-Distance Relationships are Here Again
The world, as we know, it is not fair. Although the lockdown move is good since it helps in stopping the spread of the virus, love lives will suffer. While some couples are complaining that they have to spend lots of time together, others have to spend time apart. Countries and cities globally are being locked down, almost without any notice.
Consequently, couples that worked in different cities have been forced to stay there. The other set of couples are those that maybe live in the same city but different houses. This is especially true for unmarried couples. They can no longer visit and spend time with each other as they are used to. How stressful can this be?
If you have never known what a long-distance relationship is, you are in one right now. For married couples, the stress of not having the mom or dad in the house will even affect children if you have any. This pandemic comes with a lot of stress, and personally, I would prefer to have my partner around. That is if he is a good person, of course.
Dealing with uncertainty together is easier because you give each other support. Moral support can go a long way in maintaining our sanity. At the same time, just being able to visit your lover even if you are not married helps a great deal in a crisis like this. The long talks, the hugs, the dates, and outdoor activities allow for bonding and consolation. To those unmarried but forced to stay away from each other, do you think your relationship is strong enough to bounce back unharmed?
When your partner is away, stress levels will increase incredibly. With the way Coronavirus is behaving, you may not be sure if your partner will still be around the next day. So many people are dying right now. I can only imagine how stressed one may get if you try to reach them but fail to do so for days. You will think of the worst. People that are locked down away from their partners have these worries.
The worst is worrying about your partner, yet they are just somewhere cheating on you. While some cities are on lockdown, others have their activities going on as usual. You may be worried about bae, yet he/she is somewhere having a good time. That is mean. If your Cinderella or prince charming is not with you, the two of you must do everything to make it work out. You don’t want to worry about Corona and a grown person too.
Online Dating Is Back
This virus has affected the love life of even single folks. Before all this, we could go out and mingle with other people. This has changed, and it’s depressing for people that are looking to start dating. Although social distance has been recommended because of the virus, people do not have to disconnect. We can still meet people and fall in love using other means.
Humans are wired to crave connections and love. We are also just bound to want things that we cannot love. At a time when people cannot go out and start dating, this is the time we want to form romantic connections the most. Suddenly, even those people that never thought about dating are in love. Be careful though. People are bored. Don’t confuse it for love.
Online dating has been with us forever, even though others thought it was lame. People that met online have been deemed weird and antisocial. Who is laughing now? Look at you suddenly downloading online dating applications. Tinder and other sites are going to get new members now. Many people are now going online to get love, even on Facebook.
Things have changed, but we must keep love alive. I even predict a permanent shift in the traditional style of dating as we have known it. Online dating will be embraced more. Now that all we have are our smartphone devices and the internet, plus extra time, we may as well use it to meet new people. Let online dating begin. Enjoy it while it lasts. If the relationship does not work, at least they kept you company when you needed it. Just be open minded and don’t expect too much from each other.
Stuck With The Wrong Person in Quarantine?
This is the most tragic love story. I read a story about a lady that had gone to pick her stuff from her ex-boyfriend’s house. Before she could leave, a lockdown was declared in that city. Guess what, she has been stuck with her ex for over two months now. You don’t want to imagine her misery because this relationship was over a long time ago according to her and there is no way of mending it. In fact, she had moved on and her boyfriend is in another city. I bet she wanted to rush there to spend the lockdown with him.
I am sure she is not the only one in such a position right now. You are stuck with someone you totally don’t love, and there is nothing you can do about it. This must be devastating for both of you. How are you even coping? I am laughing so hard right now trying to imagine what would happen if I was stuck with my ex for months. I don’t want to think about it honestly.
The Abusive Lockdown Partner
It will be inhuman and criminal to forget those who are in lockdown with an abusive partner. Unfortunately, while others are only concerned about spending too much time with the partner that truly loves them, someone is wishing they had that. Media reports have shown that cases of domestic violence have increased over the last few months.
Men, women, and children are having it rough at this moment. This virus is already stressful enough for all of us. Some families are really struggling to put food on the table. This is the time when we need our partners’ and parents’ support more than ever. It does not make any sense for someone to use this time to make another person’s life miserable. My prayers go out to everyone being abused in any form of way by the person they love the most. This virus should just end already.
A Difficult Time for Side Chicks and Ben 10s
I am really trying not to laugh as I write this, but I can’t. I am not a sadist but this is funny. How are the side chicks and Ben 10s surviving during this lockdown? You have been serving these men and women diligently for years. Now that they are locked down with their real partners, your services are no longer required. Your bills were paid and good looks catered for. Now, there is no more money for going to do nails, hair, and all that. Worse still, there is no one to pay your rent in that expensive mansion they took you to.
I can only imagine how difficult that is but this was bound to happen. You see, when push comes to shove, these people you sleep with for various benefits will eventually go back home. I hope this tells you something about being the side dish. No one really pays for services they are no longer getting. How do you expect them to keep sending you money? Things are really bad for the side dishes right now.
Wives have been complaining a lot about slay queens taking their husbands away. They have been praying to God to restore their marriages and bring their men back home. This virus must be an answered prayer for these wives. On the other hand, you are there all miserable and unable to take care of yourself during this terrible time.
I honestly hope this pandemic is helping you see things clearly. It has never been about love. Married men lie out here just to sleep with you. You need to be smart and get a backup plan. These people will always go back to their wives. He told you that he can’t stand her anymore and will divorce her, right? You wish. Why did he not come to your place instead before the lockdown?
Brace yourself, Love, things are not getting any better. He will only remember you again after the Coronavirus is gone. Please, please be smart and leave married men alone. When all this is over, please get a real job, start investing and save your money. You cannot keep relying on a married man.
When it comes to men, it is usually just about sex. Yes, I said it! Sex! You were being used for sex. Now all the styles and sex positions you taught him are being used on his wife. I feel chest pain, just talking about this. I can actually feel your pain. Be smart sister, brother. Get a job and your own man or woman.
Coronavirus has come to expose us. Our relationships and love lives are now in the open. Even the most glued marriages and relationships are being tested greatly. You loved your partner before all this, but this pandemic is going to show us which relationships are real. Yes, we are watching you all. We have already seen an increase in divorce cases in China since the lockdown ended.
Things will never be the same. ‘Normal’ as we knew it is gone and gone for good. If your relationship survives this, I don’t think anything will ever break it. Relationships and marriages require work and tolerance. May this pandemic help open your eyes. May you finally get to know the person you are sleeping with better. We are in this together; even we singles are with you. It is hard for all of us.